Any positive facts about breast cancer?
Monday, June 22nd, 2009 at
5:58 pm
WiSh I WeRe iN EnGLaND 
asked:
My family just found out yesterday that my mom has breast cancer and ive never been so scared. Ive been doing some research on it, hoping i would feel better but its only making me more scared. I was hoping someone would tell me some positive things about breast cancer like good facts and some advise on how to deal with it and help her survive because she is the most important person to me.
Thanx in advance and please take this question seriously.
she had a lump 3 months ago and they told her it was nothing but that they would have to check it every 3 months so she went back and they did find some cancer cells
asked: My family just found out yesterday that my mom has breast cancer and ive never been so scared. Ive been doing some research on it, hoping i would feel better but its only making me more scared. I was hoping someone would tell me some positive things about breast cancer like good facts and some advise on how to deal with it and help her survive because she is the most important person to me.
Thanx in advance and please take this question seriously.
she had a lump 3 months ago and they told her it was nothing but that they would have to check it every 3 months so she went back and they did find some cancer cells
Tagged with: Cancer Cells • Important Person • Mom
Filed under: Breast Cancer
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There is nothing positive about cancer. The best thing you can do, is be there for her, shes probly more scared then you.
Be there to comfort her, and help her, she needs you rite now…
There’s really nothing positive about the situation, although you could try joking with her about the situation to try to make her laugh and be more positive (well, mom, if you gotta’ get rid of a breast you’ll… lose that weight you wanted to… be like an Amazon woman and can fight dad easier… won’t have to worry about underwiring cutting into your ***** anymore… if you lose your hair, you won’t have to worry about spending an hour fixing it every morning).
That’s the kind of stuff one of my friend’s did, and it made her laugh. BUT that depends on your mom and the type of humor she has, too. Otherwise, you are better off just being supportive but do not pity her. It just makes a person feel more miserable to see their loved ones crying.
Well, it all depends on what stage it is. Depending on how soon they caught it, there could be a variety of treatment options and survival rate. All you can do for her is be there for her and support her. Ask her how you can help her. Emotional support is one of the biggest deciding factors on survival.
You wont see any positives right now. And for there to be positives at all, you have to make yourself look for them. For example, one positive could be to look at this as a learning experience. It ***** that she has to go through this, but she will learn a lot about her body and breast cancer and its treatment. She will probably meet a lot of amzing people if she allows herself to.
To help deal, my first suggestion is to seek out a psychologist and a support group. Most people do need outside help to deal with this, and sometimes you need to say things that you just cant say to the people who love you the most. The psychologist can help her deal mentally and the support group can give her lots of tips and pointers, and support. I also suggest the rest of the family join support groups as well, for families of patients.
She needs to fully understand whats going on with her body. Encourage her (as well as yourself) to look up all the terms that are being thrown at you. Ask the doctor questions. If you dont understand something, ask again. In fact right now with a new diagnosis… I tell people to get a new notebook. Write down everything you are told. Write down the questions you have so that you dont miss any when you are talking to the doc and right down the answers. You may want to schedule a consultation apt so that you know the doc has plenty of time to talk to her. I also suggest bringing the laptop/webcam or a voice recorder to apts so that you can concentrate on what the doc is saying and then go back and write everything down later. If you dont know how to spell a word to look it up, ask. If you dont know the meaning of a word, get a dictionary and look it up.
I personally always like to double check orders as well. Not because I dont trust my docs, I have the utmost trust in them. But they are only human. If you are proactive about your health, if you double check everything you are given/take/do, first you will know exactly whats going on, but second will catch a mistake if there is one.
There’s nothing positive about the disease but it made my sister appreciate life and closer relationship with God. She is a single mother of one and have a 13 year old son. She is 43 years old and had breast cancer twice in the same breast and mastectomy last year. She is looking forward to breast reconstruction hopefully later this year. My sister change her diet, started exercising, walking almost daily. She stop drinking soda, cut white floor, sugar…..junk foods. Yeah, she had to cut out all the “good stuff” like pizza, candy, Mickey D’s. She tries to get organic and eat raw foods. She lost over 60 pounds. She looks good. My sisters has good day and bad days but she’s not giving up. You have to remember cancer isn’t a death sentence anymore. There a good survival rate if it catch early. (=
Well, one positive thing is that there have been more advances in breast cancer than in any other kind that I can think of. There are new treatments coming out yearly. Tamoxifen, aromotase inhibitors, Herceptin, more targeted radiation, better imaging processes, better meds for control of chemotherapy side effects.
For early detection of some types of BC the 5 year survival rate is in excess of 95%. The best website for information that I am aware of is. There you will find information on all aspects of BC treatment. And there are forums for family members and for various types of BC.
BC is no picnic, but it isn’t a death sentence either. Being scared doesn’t do much good, being informed helps – but get good information.
thank God we have medical options for treatment. my best friend is 37 and has it too and i research stuff for her and tell her i’m here to help
Dang. The only positive thing I’ve been able to find in it is that I like my hair short. It used to be long.
On a positive note, there are many treatments available to us these days to help fight this disease. More and more women are survivors. I know it’s scary. Especially when you get on the computer and start researching. It can get overwhelming. Try to stay positive and be there for your mom. It will be a tough journey. I was diagnosed last March. Feel free to contact me through my profile.
My best to your mom.